Dear David,
In July, when you first went missing, I told everyone I
knew. I needed support. I needed prayers. And I got both. The second time you
left the house to live on the streets, I again asked for prayers and support.
Now we are on the third round. We have told no one. There is an incredible
invisible line one crosses when their child is missing. One day, he is safe at
Hazelden, and the next day he is gone. Gone. And we have no idea where you are.
Before the call from Hazelden, I was happy. Now I am sad. It is as simple as
that. And the thought of bringing our loved ones, and your loved ones, from
happy to sad with one pronouncement, “David is missing…again”, seems too cruel
a burden. The sun is shining. The weather is warm. It is the weekend. We are,
were, happy. So, John and I will let people have their happiness until Monday.
At which time they will hear the news, and they will cry, and pray, and offer
support, and wonder wonder wonder where our David could be.
Love,
Mom
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ReplyDeleteMartha,
ReplyDeleteDavid's original birth certificate is actually U.S. government property, not yours. Legally speaking, you and his father were given a copy of it merely as a form of receipt for his birth. If David wanted his own notarized copy, he could have easily gotten it by contacting the county's vital records office who would give him instructions on how to obtain a new official copy. The same holds true for his social security card. If he had a passport, that is legally his and withholding that from him would be against the law.
I'm glad to read via Pioneer Press that you and your son are now talking and mending your relationship, but please know that your controlling and manipulative behavior as his mother was likely a proponent that pushed your son further away from you in his teenage years, ultimately leading him to seek out drugs because he didn't feel loved, supported, or understood at home. You mentioned he was given everything as a child; apparently, given the circumstances, that wasn't the case. As a parent, you need to take off the rose colored glasses and take some accountability for the outcome of your child's mental well being. Had he been raised in an unconditionally loving and caring household, he may have never experimented with street drugs to begin with.
Most people living with depression and anxiety seek out drugs to alleviate agonizing symptoms and because underneath it all they feel unloved and unworthy. Those feelings originated and were ingrained into his psyche somewhere along David's life. 99% of the time those thoughts and beliefs stem from what a child experienced at home. Any clinically licensed therapist would agree with me.
I'm sure you will delete my comment as soon as you read it. Sometimes the truth is hard to take in.
As someone from the outside looking in, you should know that YOU played in a role in his disease and likely prolonged his suffering through your heartless actions. Not being there to support him during his time of need and kicking him out of the house was probably the worst thing you could have done as a parent. You and David's father should be utterly ashamed of yourselves.
Some of the onus rests on you.
Ramsey Banning..You are clueless and a horrible person. Go pound salt someplace.
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